Your Friends

You may find it difficult to talk to your friends and other community members about your child's cancer diagnosis. Most adults have limited experience with cancers affecting children. When you talk to people about your situation, they may act as though your child has received a terminal diagnosis.

But don't give up if you get negative reactions. Instead, educate your friends about childhood cancer. Explain that childhood cancer is very different from adult cancers in that prognoses are better and that causes are generally unknown. Understanding your child's diagnosis will probably make your friends more comfortable discussing cancer.

Some friends, however, may not stay connected to you during this difficult time despite all of your efforts. This happens for a variety of reasons. Some may drift away because a cancer diagnosis reminds them of their own vulnerability. Others may react negatively if you don't return phone calls or initiate contact when your schedule gets especially hectic, although most people are willing to offer friendship when your time permits.

In fact, your experience with cancer may alter your life so much that you will want to make new friends. In any case, as you transition back to 'normal' life, it's important to develop and maintain a strong network of friends.